Susan Barr Cote

Susan Barr Cote

Suffolk , VA
07.23.1953 - 07.22.2020

Susan Cote, 66, of Suffolk VA, passed away peacefully at home in her sleep surrounded by her family on July 22, 2020. Beloved wife of Danny Cote  for 46 years, and loving  mother to Nicole Cote, Jaime Cote Butler, and Danny CoteII.  Sue is also survived by 5 much-loved grandchildren, and many nieces and nephews and their children.

Susan was born in Boston Massachusetts and was raised by her Grandmother and Grandfather Pearl and Hugh Casley. When Susan was in elementary school the family moved to near-by Quincy Mass, where Sue went on to graduate from North Quincy High School,

Susan met Danny while Sue was staying with friends in Old Orchard Beach Maine over Labor Day weekend in 1972, and the couple went on to be was married in Boston in 1974. Following the wedding the pair moved to Portland Maine to work and raise a family.

Susan worked for several years as a legal Secretary for prominent local Attorney John O’Leary, and then after becoming pregnant with Nicole, left the workforce to raise a family.  Sue and Dan spent 26 year in the Greater Portland area where they had a wide circle of friends and were active in the community. As a result of Dan’s evolving career, their time in Portland was followed by a series of moves to Charlton Massachusetts, Venetia Pennsylvania, and finally to Suffolk Virginia where they have lived for the last 8 years.  Susan maintained contact with a close group of friends over the years including current and former neighbors and friends from the various places that she had lived, but was never happier than when her children were visiting with her.

Her charm, infectious laugh or smile, her openness and genuine caring for others and her love of entertaining or dining out all will be truly missed by those that know and love her.

A funeral service will be held on Monday, July 27, 2020,  7 PM with Rev. Michael Halley officiating at R.W. Baker & Co. Funeral Home and Crematory. The family will receive friends following the service. Condolences may be registered at

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R.W. Baker & Company Funeral Home
509 W Washington St
Suffolk, VA 23434
United States


Dan, Sorry for your loss and you and your family have my condolences! I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Philip Coleman

I am so sorry for your loss. The few times I met Susan I have enjoyed her smile and watching her interact with Nicole's children and with Nicole. I know she will be greatly missed. Praying for all of you at this time.

The Kendall's

Kim (Nicole's friend)

Dan, Susan was joy to be around for anyone who ever had the pleasure. The love you shared was an inspiration to all. She will be sorely missed, but the world is undoubtedly a better place for her having graced it. Our thoughts are with you and your family through difficult time.

The Ayers Family

Shane Ayers


I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Please know that you are in my thoughts during this difficult time for you and your family.

Deepest Sympathies,

Dana Argo

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