Joshua "Jack" Cottingham West IV

Joshua "Jack" Cottingham West IV

Suffolk, VA
06.04.1942 - 05.02.2018
Suffolk, Virginia
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     Joshua “Jack” Cottingham West IV passed away in his home Wednesday May 2nd, 2018. He was born June 4, 1942 in Suffolk, VA and was a lifelong resident of his beloved town. He was predeceased by his parents Joshua C. West III and Frances H. West, sister, Sherwood Sackett, and grandson Mason Joshua West. He was a proud Marine and served five years in the Reserves. He exemplified the courage of a warrior in his 33 year battle with Multiple Sclerosis. He graduated from Old Dominion University and a KA Fraternity member. Jack retired from Merrill Lynch, founded Hampton Roads Financial, LLC with his son, and worked there until his passing.

     Jack was a lifelong member of St. Paul’s Episcopal Church where he served as teacher, a Vestry Member, and was three times Senior Warden. He was active in his community starting in the Suffolk Jaycee’s, coached for SYAA and started its’ basketball program.  Jack was a third generation Rotarian with the Suffolk Rotary club, on the board of Tidewater Occupational Therapy, on the ODU Athletic board, and a member of the Suffolk Golf Association.

     Jack was a lifelong sports enthusiast, playing football, basketball and tennis in high school.  Jack enjoyed attending sporting events as well; especially Redskin games and ODU basketball. However, his first love was golf, playing when he had time and in local charity tournaments.  Jack and Barbara loved being in Arnold Palmer’s “Arnie’s Army” at golf tournaments they attended.  He especially loved to watch his children in their passions, cheering on his daughter at local horse shows and his son in football.  Jack and Barbara also enjoyed playing tennis together and skiing with their children and their friends.

     He is survived and adored by his wife and best friend of more than 50 years Barbara L. West, daughter Tara W. Allen (Kerry), son Joshua C. West V (Katie), two grandchildren Sarah and Cooper, his loving sister Ginger W. Owen (Bill); mother-in-law, Ethel Lewis, a devoted sister in law Mary L. Day (Richard) and a large extended family of cousins, nieces, and nephews.

     The family would like to thank the many friends that have supported him with visits and assisted Barbara and his children. Thank you as well to Personal Touch Skilled Nursing and Hospice staff, and the many Doctors and staff at Obici Hospital that knew him well. 

     A memorial service will be held Tuesday, May 8, 2018 at 11 AM in St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, 213 North Main Street, Suffolk. The family will receive friends on Monday, May 7, 2018 from 6:00 – 7:30 PM in R.W. Baker & Company Funeral Home and Crematory, 509 West Washington Street, Suffolk. A burial will be private in Cedar Hill Cemetery. In lieu of flowers memorial donations may be made to the Suffolk Humane Society or the National MS Society. Online condolences may be registered at


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R.W. Baker & Company Funeral Home
Suffolk, VA 23434
United States

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St. Paul's Episcopal Church
213 North Main Street
Suffolk, VA 23434
United States


Jack coached my Midget football team to the City championship 2 years in row while he was attending ODU. Not many college guys would give up their time to spend their afternoons working with 10,11, & 12 year old boys, but he did. He was a great role model & one of the reasons that high school coaching was the career that I chose. My thoughts & prayers go out to Barbara & her family.

Stan Pope

Sending love and prayers to Barbara and family. Despite the battles he fought, Jack could always keep his smile. He will always be remembered as a Special classmate and remembered with love and a smile. Keeping you in my thoughts...

Glenda Daughtrey

Glenda Mizell Daughtrey

Sending love and prayers to Barbara and family. Despite the battles he fought, Jack could always keep his smile. He will always be remembered as a Special classmate and remembered with love and a smile. Keeping you in my thoughts...

Glenda Daughtrey

Glenda Mizell Daughtrey

Dear Barbara and Family,
On behalf of the City of Suffolk Treasurer's Office, I want to extend to you and your family our sincerest sympathy on the loss of Jack. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time.
Ronald H. Williams, City Treasurer and Office Staff

Ronald H. Williams

Jack has meant so much to so many. I am so proud to be able to have called him a fraternity brother, fellow athlete, and most of all, a true friend. He was a class act, a gentleman, and someone who set the bar so high, most of us will never be able to reach it. I would also have to say the same thing for Barbara. She has demonstrated through out their marriage the true meaning of a loving, devoted, and dedicated wife. Pam and I want to express our deepest sympathy to Barbara and the entire West family. Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers. May God comfort you at this difficult time.

William and Pamela Hill

Praying that you feel God's peace through this difficult time.

The Romanczyk Family

Kathy Romanczyk

Uncle Jack was my mom"s (Mary Day) brother-in-law. I never got to see Uncle Jack as often as I wanted but loved him very much. He was a wonder man and have memories of seeing from the time I was very little. An amazing father, husband and man. Rest in peace, Uncle Jack. You fought your battle bravely and with dignity. You will always hold a very special place in my heart. To my Aunt Bobbie, one of my favorite people in the whole world and one of the bravest women I know, my heart is with you even if I cannot be. I love you. To my cousins, Tara and Josh, I love you both and you are in my thoughts. I wish I could be there. Love always, Kathy

Kathy Kivi (Day)

Jack and my Dad Bob Purkey worked for decades together at Merrill Lynch. Jack was the consummate Southern gentleman and one of the most thoughtful people I know. As my dad declined, Jack would call me to check in on Bob. Those calls meant so much. Our family sends our thoughts and prayers to the West family.

Harry Purkey

Jack was 7 tears older than me. While growing up, he was a role model for me. We worked construction during the summers and explored going into the building business together. I was unsure of my future goals and we didn't pursue it. Jack's mother had a great tradition. She mailed birthday cards. I was impressed and have carried on her tradition. Will miss Jack and sending him birthday cards. He was a great man who impacted many. He will be missed by many.

Will Reid

Jack was a KA Brother who warmly welcomed me to the Order my freshman year at ODC in

1966! Through the years, he never ceased to be a good friend, mentor, an outstanding

individual, and a great influence in my life!! I have often thought of him many times over the

years for his kindness, sincerity, and respect he had for others! Jack will always be in high

regard to all who have known him, and he will not be forgotten as we pass through this life,

and we hope to see him on the other side! He and his family will be in my thoughts, and may

God Bless them at this time of sadness!

Gary Loftis

Gary Loftis

Dear Barbara and family,
Hadley and I just learned of Jack’s passing and we are so very sorry. Jack was such a kind man and seemed to be such a trooper in battling his disease. On the other hand, he could not have picked a more loving and loyal partner to be by his side and to help him through his fight. I was there on the day that Jack and you met and I felt from the beginning that it was a perfect match. It seems like yesterday, but has been a lifetime full of love and devotion. Our family will have your family in our thoughts and prayers and wish the best for you all in going forward. Take care, my friend!
Dianne and Hadley
Rockingham, VA

Dianne Whitlock

Dear Josh and Family,

From my family, Myself, William, Richard, Leann, and Katrina, we have the deepest condolences for you in your time of grief. We all know how hard this transition is for all those that Jack loved so dearly, and we know that he would want for all that love to stay within all of you now, and in the future. Jack was a good man, and my late Father had much respect for him. May God look after him in heaven.


Very sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. You taught me Art at Suffolk High School my senior year (1969). I try to read the local newspapers on line, and saw Jack's obituary. Again my deepest sympathy to you and your family. Steve Earley

Steve Earley

Jack always had a smile on his face. I was so sad to hear of his passing. He will be fondly remembered by many of all ages. My sincerest condolences to his family.

Robert Speer

Dearest Barbara,
You know how special you've always been to me, and never more than at this difficult time for you and your family. Though I didn't know Jack well, I knew he had to be a first-class guy to choose you as his life partner. The video shows a warm and loving family with many happy memories. Please know that I'll be thinking about you with love and affection.

My condolences to you and your family.

Marsha Owens

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